It can be hard to tell if couples counseling is right for you, and it can be hard to find couples counseling in the Upper Valley which is a good fit for both partners. Here are a few tips.
Many couples reach a point in their relationship when they feel the need for support during a difficult time. Perhaps there are financial losses or a life decision coming up which is putting stress on the relationship. Any significant change, such as a major illness, change of job, or even purchasing a new home can be difficult to negotiate. Change can put a strain on a relationship even when it is anticipated or sought out by the couple.
Even if you’re both thinking couples counseling might be helpful, some questions may still arise:
The therapists at Vermont Talk Therapy work with couples to help determine their specific needs. Some couples prefer to work together with the therapist and see no need for individual therapy as well. Often, however, there is conflict or difficulty in understanding each other’s point of view. In these situations it can be helpful for the therapist to meet with each partner at least once as well as meeting with the couple together. Working with each individual gives the therapist the opportunity to understand each person’s needs, desires, and contribution to the relationship.
When working with couples, a therapist does not take sides or give advice. The goal is to assist the couple in reaching their own understanding of the problems facing the relationship and improve communication between the partners to help them find their own solutions. Careful listening, focused questions, and assistance with understanding a partner’s point of view can promote the couple’s own goals.
If you feel like you’re having the same conversation or the same argument time after time and not reaching a solution that works for both parties, couples counseling might be worth investigating. A good first step is to get in touch with our therapists, who can help you decide if therapy is a good option. Brief questions can be answered by phone. An in-person consultation is usually be the next step, and the end goal is to help find the right solutions to get your relationship back on track.