We’ve all heard a friend or relative talk about how, “things were so bad they had to start couples therapy”. In some cases, the couples counseling saved the relationship, in some cases the couples counseling was too late. Either way, it raises a question: What if seeing a Vermont couples counseling solution wasn’t a last ditch effort? What if the warning signs and the red flags were listened to sooner? What if couples counseling was preventative, not reactive?
All relationships have patterns. If you think about it, you’ll probably realize you have the same disagreements, the same conversations about what to change or what you wish the other person would do differently. Now think about whether any of those friction points are getting better. Is the conversation going anywhere or are you becoming more entrenched in your own opinion? Do you feel like you can see past the conflict or are you bringing up old disagreements over and over?
Now imagine the possibility of getting past some of your sticking points. Would it be worth a try? You wouldn’t put up with a frustrating job forever nor would you drive a car that broke down every month, so why is it that we allow ourselves to stop fixing and improving our relationships? After all, the other solution is to wait until the relationship is unbearable and eventually leave it.
Rather than view relationships as a journey with two outcomes–perfect or failed–we encourage couples to think of their relationships as works in progress. A work in progress can always be improved upon…if both parties are willing to work on it.
If you’re ready to hear a little more about how Vermont couples counseling can work in a preventative capacity, get in touch. We’d be happy to help you explore your options.